Swing in the City

Swing in the City is the official blog of School of Sex, Behind Closed Doors, and SiN.

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Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, they say.  But, we also know that imitators are never quiet as good as the "original."  When it comes to the original ideas created by Behind Closed Doors and XXXtreme Events, imitators often try to steal these ideas and claim them as their own.  You may have seen imitators copy these ideas even word-for-word.  For example, I have seen old men that throw "swinger parties for hot, young couples run by a real swinging female," promoters that throw their version of BCD's hybrid off-premise/on-premise events that are nothing more than a sex-less tease, parties open to single males filled with prostitutes that promise "real couples and single women," and party hosts that promise "exclusivity" to their guests, only to allow in any "Hairy," Dick and Jane off the street -- because it's all about the bottom line, money.

 

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The over 100 guests who attended Saturday night's "Return to Summer" Behind Closed Doors event got a preview of our brand new facility, which is simply breathtaking.  Ladies and gentlemen, this is the hottest location you will EVER find a swingers party.  Some of our more experienced guests agreed, as the slew of emails I have received since the party have indicated.

"We've been to the hottest lifestyle clubs and resorts in the WORLD and we've never seen a facility as phenomenal as your new spot, or guests who are as overwhelmingly attractive yet warm and non-cliquey -- BCD is in a class by itself!"

So, I am happy to report that we have reached a new level of success.   BCD is, by far, the hottest party you will find in the New York metro area and throughout the world.  With swarms of gorgeous couples and single females at the a world-class facility complete with spa facilities, private rooms, and breathtaking views, you'll have to attend for yourself to believe it.

The night went along without a hitch.  Since the sheer size of our new facility is so massive, we brought out three times the amount of staff we usually assemble.  The result was fantastic.  Guests were given even more personal attention; our beautiful hostess showed everyone around and our hunky security guards held doors open.

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Money isn't everything, especially when it comes to swinging.  In fact, swinging is the great equalizer.  Since the School of Sex and our parties, Behind Closed Doors and XXXtreme Events, are not operated for profit we aren't looking to let in everyone off the street just to make a quick buck.  Every other club does just that, simply because at the end of the day their club or party is a business.  The dynamics work very different at my events.

First, it means hotter guests.  I have been around the world to check out the finest swinger clubs on the planet.  Even if the swing club itself is opulent, alluring, and grand, there is always a problem -- the guests.  In order to finance such an operation, these clubs need to let everyone in.  That's also the reason many clubs operate "single guy" nights where single males are allowed in, to help the bottom line.

But when you open a club to everyone, there are issues.  Despite lovely decor of a top swing club, it's never sexy to see people old enough to be your parents -- or grandparents in many cases!  The sad truth is that the overwhelming majority of swingers are old, extremely out of shape, and don't take care of themselves.  The older men are typically the ones who are the worst, even if they bring some eye candy to the club with them.  So, if you decide to check out a swing club, a swinger resort, or anything of the sort, be prepared to see people that you will probably find very unattractive.

Then there's BCD.  We ONLY invite hot, young couples and single women.  The age range of our guests is 21 to 45 (and those who are 40+ must be exceedingly hot).  BOTH the male and the female of a couple must be attractive.  Sorry old men, but we don't want fugly sugar daddies -- you can't buy into our party the way you bought your Barbie doll (yes, we HAVE seen such displays as the one pictured at swing clubs).

Single males beg for entrance into BCD, even offering thousands of dollars for a chance to attend -- or simply watch.  They're always turned down.  NO single males are permitted at BCD events, that's why we have XXXtreme Events (assuming the guy is hot enough).  And no boys, I don't have a single female friend to hook you up with.

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March's Wall of Shamer may sound familiar as he is not alone.  Let's call him "Luke."  Luke and I spoke on the phone a few hours before a BCD party since he had registered last minute (I direct all guests who register within 24 hours of an event to call the BCD contact number).  As you know I typically speak with the female -half of a couple.  Unfortunately, Luke's wife of many years was unavailable to talk on the phone with me for an interview.  I should have told Luke that I would be unable to accommodate them, for reasons you will find out as the story unfolds.

However, Luke assured me that his wife was very much interested in swinging and the both of them mutually agreed to attend the party.  Luke asked me some common questions regarding the party on the phone.  Due to the fact that I was already preparing for the party, I was unable to answer all his questions and directed him to the Behind Closed Doors website's Frequently Asked Questions section.  I further explained to him that all beginners should attend Swing School, which is designed to address all of his and his wife's concerns.  However, Luke cut me off frantically, "Well, ah, we got dinner reservations at a...10PM and can't to Swing School."  I insisted that Luke and his wife change their reservations if possible so they could at least catch the end of the school. 

But, for some reason, those that need to come to Swing School often never do.  As time goes on, I think I will be forced to institute more stringent policies because of people like Luke.  I extended him an invitation because  I just am too nice sometimes.  What happened? Well, when the action was well under-way at the party, Luke and his wife walked in.  I was a bit pre-disposed and was unable to greet the two.  So, Luke created quite a scene and walked into the play area without knowing any of the rules.  As he approached the area, he yelled out, "I just wanna watch!"  I turned around and put on my panties to talk to this loud-mouth.  However, before I even had the chance to address his problems and/or get my security to throw him out, Luke and his wife, who looked dazed and confused, walked out.  Apparently, she didn't want to be there and was totally taken aback by the dozens of naked bodies that were engaging in an orgy.  I just don't understand why Luke would act like a jerk and not come out during the school to put his wife at ease and learn proper etiquette.  Instead of getting some, my guess is Luke got none and went home with an angry wife that night. 

And with every ass, the rules for BCD get even stricter to ensure that only those hot young couples with an upbeat, positive attitude and good manners are permitted to join our events.  It's better for me, it's better for our guests, and it's better for pricks like Luke who won't have a good time anyway. 

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My readers know that I absolutely love porn.  My preference is the juicy stuff -- gangbangs, big dicks, and so on. Over the years, porn has had a great influence over technology adoption (e.g. favoring VHS over Betamax due to its length; early pay-per-view use was primarily for porn, etc.).  And now, Hong Kong is leading the way in 3D --

No ordinary porn flick, "3-D Sex & Zen: Extreme Ecstasy" is being touted as the world's first IMAX-3-D erotic film.

First out of the gates, the soft porn Hong Kong film comes as the stricken industry, hit hard by free Internet porn in recent years, turns to 3-D as a potential money-spinner, following on from the success of Hollywood blockbusters such as James Cameron's Avatar.
 
Read the full story here.
 
I must confess, the thought of seeing some thick, massive cocks jumping out of my TV screen makes me wetter than a bottle of Poland Spring! 

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XXXtreme Events (now, SiN) is an exclusive, private party open to select, very attractive single males, couples and single females who are interested in group sex, MMF threesomes, or gangbangs.  Sometimes, beginners who claim to be ready for the "xxxtreme" action simply are not.  For that reason, we thought it might be a good idea to implement bracelets to indicate what the women really wanted.

 The first time we used bracelets to help distinguish who was the most fun was our first trip to Desire in Cancun.  If you recall, we gave bracelets to all those who were in "full-swap" couples and made waves at the resort.  People instantly utilized these indicators to find playmates and have fun.  A concept so simple really got a ton of people laid -- and made them a LOT happier than they otherwise would have been!  We hadn't used bracelets to distinguish guests at Behind Closed Doors or XXXtreme Events because I felt that with so many beginners, it would be unfair to ask people to classify themselves at the door.

But since XXXtreme Events generally attract more seasoned swingers and we have been amassing a large group of repeat guests, I figured a "Stoplight" party would be a great idea.  Stoplight?  Yes, three colors for each of three groups:

Red bracelets for women who want to stick with their partner or be left alone.

Yellow bracelets for women looking for one, or possibly two, single males.

Green bracelets for women who would like a gang-bang scenario.  Of course, neither yellow or green means that it is a free-for-all, as all women attending any of my parties have the right and obligation to be picky about who they want to play with.

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From Digital Spy Odd News

A couple claiming to be the oldest married swingers in Britain have celebrated 30 years of "total and utter hedonism".

Former delivery driver Ian Smith, 70, and his former dance teacher wife Jean, 75, of Buckhurst Hill, London, have taken part in over 300 "wild" sex parties since the 1970s, SWNS reports.

Ian said: "I admit we're a little older than most 'swingers', but we're not over the hill quite yet.

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This month's Wall of Shame is a single man who skipped out on the bill at an XXXtreme Event.  This man, whom I had previously hit it off with, contacted me a few hours before the start of the party to ask if he could come out.  He had not paid or registered through the website, but I made an exception since I "knew" him.  I thought he was a good guy and would be honorable enough to pay his admission at the door.  As a working professional whose own cousin is in the industry, he knew that throwing these parties is an expensive proposition considering our prime location rental rates, furniture rental, staff, supplies, laundry, etc.


I knew there were some cock-hungry ladies at the party and figured they would have a good time with him, as he is a handsome guy.  I was right -- he came out and a great time with several sexy ladies.  He had a fantastic time at the party, but when I asked him to pay his admission fee after the party, he refused to do so.

This fine, upstanding gentleman left without paying, explaining via txt message that he was "extremely cheap."  Yes, he said that in order to explain why he didn't want to make the required donation as a party guest.  Even though he makes a six-figure income in his late 20s, had aesthetic surgery, loves to vacation in the Caribbean, has a place in the city and a house outside, he would prefer not to pay me.  So, I ended up paying his admission price out of my own pocket for the pleasure of having him attend -- as well as tip the staff on his behalf.

This cheap fuck wound up writing me an email after the event saying that I shouldn't worry about him not paying the bill because he would love to come over to my apartment, bring a bottle of wine and fuck me to make up for it.  Haven't heard that one before... I think I'll pass!  And, he reaffirmed why the rules of my parties are so important and why prepayment is entirely necessary.

Can someone say L-O-S-E-R?  At least I know why this guy is single.  Why any guy would piss off the person who controls the guest list of the hottest erotic events in NYC simply defies logic.  He may just wind up being the top Wall-of-Shamer of 2010.
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I received the Let’s Play Doctor game and thought I could use it for some naughty play.  According to Babeland’s website: “Play doctor, or teacher, or firefighter, or traveling salesperson...it's up to you with the Let's Play Doctor game. You'll choose from 40 erotic role-plays and fantasies for couples-fun, flirty, and creative, this game is sure to inspire countless hours of naughty fun. Perfect as a bachelorette or newlywed gift, or as a way to spice up your own relationship. Includes 45 game cards, color illustrations, a spinner, and a storage box with lid.” 

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How do you know pick out the "Swingers" from the "Vanillas" in the real world?  This is a question I am often asked.  Sometimes, I can pick out swingers in a crowd by paying attention to their behavior.  Swingers are relatively happy in life and are usually optimists.  Typically, swingers are quite satisfied with their relationships and often compliment their partners.  Swingers, real swingers, love to enjoy life and live it to its fullest.  I guess it's sometimes easier to pick out the non-swingers than the swingers.  After all, many of the men I interact with on a day to day basis constantly complain about their lives and wives--probably not swingers.

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When I started the School of Sex three years ago, my goal was to educate young couples about the joys of swinging.  The goal was to bring more young people like myself into the swing lifestyle.  After all, nearly every swinger party and swing club I had ever attended was a complete turn-off and the perfect reason for young, hot guests to run for the hills.  The only reason I had gotten into swinging was the fact that I didn't go into it expecting anything.  I was thrilled enough to have sex in new and exciting places.  If Rocco and I had any problem saying "no" to people two or three times our age (or weight), we would have never gone back.  We had to be very assertive and extremely open-minded.

Fast forward to 2008, Behind Closed Doors was introduced as the first and only truly selective on-premise party in the world.  Between the screening and Swing School, Behind Closed Doors set a new standard of quality for these types of events.  No longer was the landscape of swinger parties and clubs dominated by men, Sex Kitten had arrived. In being selective, I also started the selective swinging movement. News of my parties spread throughout the community like wildfire, as did the jealousy of the "competition."

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Posted by on in Party Recaps

Last weekend we held our first "spring-break" themed event. We've definitely had events where women wore bikinis (i.e. our July Fourth Freedom party and Summer Heat), but for some reason the action this time around was even wilder. It was GIRLS GONE WILD on steroids!

I have noticed a trend in the past half year -- we are getting a LOT of repeat guests. In the past, as many as 75% of couples and single ladies at any given party were new. Many of these people were newbies and appreciated the fact that we are the most accessible erotic event around.  We have redefined the traditional swinger party into something much bigger.  Voyeurs, exhibitionists, hedonists, and the mere curious attend our parties and are shocked to find out how amazing a party catering to like-minded, attractive people can be.  Many of these people wind up playing -- even swapping partners -- because the atmosphere is so HOT!

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You would think that after throwing erotic events for almost two years, I would have seen it all.  But every now and again I am truly surprised and delighted at an event.  Last Saturday's XXXtreme Event was one such party.

I left the guest left intentionally small, rejecting dozens of men and many couples.  I was looking to create a group that would facilitate a truly orgasmic experience.  I kept the ratio of guys to girls at nearly 1:1 since many of the girls attending were bi-curious and did not express an interest in a gang-bang.  Yes, I pay careful attention to the desires of all the ladies who attend my events -- and it pays off when they all have the time of their lives!

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I found a few candidates for January's Wall of Shame during my trip to Hedonism II in Jamaica.  But one particular couple stuck out more than anyone else, the "snitchers."
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Rocco and I had met a nice older couple on the third day of our week long getaway at Hedo.  We hooked up that evening and had agreed to go on the sexy boat cruise the following morning.  As we were geting ready to board the nude booze cruise, the husband of the couple was not feeling well at all.  He told his wife to go with us -- and told us to take care of her.  The night before, he had told us that he was open to "anything she wanted" including playing without him.  It was actually his fantasy to hear about his wife getting naughty without him.  As he headed back to his room to get some rest, he made us promise to take good care of her.

Unfortunately, the cruise left a lot to be desired.  The crowd was extremely tame.  First, hardly anyone was getting naked.  No one was fucking.  It was just like any other run-of-the-mill outing on a catamaran. Most of these people would gladly chose booze over sex, and were getting hammered as soon as we headed out.  Hedonists?  Perhaps not.  Nevertheless, we found some new friends, enjoyed snorkeling, and admired the caves.

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I received the large Pop Plug in a fun package.  I had played with the traditional anal beads and smaller butt plugs in the past, but this was a big boy.  Warning ladies: you should only use this plug if you need to prep yourself to take on a pretty huge cock.  And of course, as with any anal toy, you need to use plenty of lubrication.  I used a little bit of regular lube mixed with Anal-eze to get the Pop Plug in.  It took a very long time for me to comfortably put the pop in.  
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A friend of mine, who is drop dead gorgeous and Ivy league educated with a high powered career recently sent me an article she wanted to publish.  She is also a regular at BCD and XXXtreme Events, and she has attended events both as part of a couple and more recently as a single female.

No strings attached sex is all I want.  As a single female, I don't want to get involved in your relationship.  I don't want to go home with you.  I want really hot, orgasm-inducing sex in the safe, clean, upscale environment provided by Sex Kitten at School of Sex events.  Why don't couples understand this?

I am a member of Kasidie and several other swinger personal sites.  Now that I am single, I get even more mail in my inbox.  Email flowered with compliments and invitations to dinner.  Most of the email is deceptively signed by the female, yet obviously written by the male.  Guys, you know who you are.  It can be a challenge just to get a working phone number in order to get through to the female half of the couple.  And when I ask to meet these "couples" at a party, most are too intimidated and never respond back.

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As you may have noticed, there have been a lot more parties in the past two months than ever before.  Besides Behind Closed Doors, which is our flagship event aimed at young, very attractive couples and single women, we are holding XXXtreme Events on a monthly basis, which are open to select single men as well as couples and single women.

One of the adult stars even helped as a co-instructor for Swing School and has done a fantastic job.  She confessed her love of young men and beautiful cock-meat, so I suggested a logical solution -- host an XXXtreme Event!!

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SchoolOfSex.net today announced that it will launch Untamed, a ladies-only secret society for sexually liberated women.  Events will take place once per month and cater to social, sexually adventurous women who “enjoy wine and love conversation."

"Nothing like this exists in Manhattan, and it's especially difficult to find new girlfriends here," said NYC chapter hostess and SchoolOfSex.net founder, Jasmine.  "It's even harder to find sexually liberated, open-minded women who are comfortable discussing just about anything -- including their sexual fantasies and experiences.  We've accomplished just that; our inaugural event, held this past Thursday at a member's penthouse in the city, was a fantastic success!  Next month we expect to have 45 girls getting together.  And we will grow fast from there."  The name, Untamed, was chosen since Jasmine believes  it represents the antithesis of societal expectations that have forced many women to be "prim, proper, monogamous, and otherwise tame."

"These events are not a sexual play party," says Jasmine, "nor are they like typical women's networking groups where everyone has an agenda and is trying to sell you something.  This is all about relaxing, getting away from the stresses of the day and kicking up our heels with other fun, open-minded girls."

Untamed meetings take place the first Friday of every month at a private residence in NYC. Women who wish to apply the exclusive club are directed to fill out an application at http://schoolofsex.net

 

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After a few month hiatus, XXXtreme Events made quite a comeback on Saturday night!  Produced by School of Sex, I was intimately involved in building the guest list for the party... which meant a multitude of hot young studs for the ladies in attendance to choose from.  The XXXtreme party lived up to its name; things got WILD -- which is exactly what you get when you combine insatiable, horny ladies with gorgeous, hung gents.

Everyone came in quite cold from the frigid temperatures outside and it took a little while to warm up.  I moved one of the large, portable heaters into the play area and my girlfriend Sheila made her way over to get things started.  Sheila has extremely large breasts and a slender frame, so she turned heads as she began to strip down.  Rocco and I sat on one bed with my friend Mike, who had an amazing time at the last XXXtreme Event and knew he couldn't miss out on this one!

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While hundreds of thousands of New Yorkers piled into Times Square to watch the ball drop in the bitter cold, a much hotter (both figuratively and literally) party was going on in midtown Manhattan.  And, yes, it was Behind Closed Doors!
 
As popular as ever, Swing School started off the night.  Through the informal discussion, we helped introduce the lifestyle to the gorgeous couples who were excited to learn more.  "I went to a swing party just the other week...  everyone just sat around like an awkward high school dance," a sexy 20-something commented.  She was excited to see that everyone present at the BCD party was attractive, open-minded, and friendly.  You could really feel the intense, positive energy in the air.
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