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This recap is from a new BCD member who attended her first party in January.

To save you the trouble of reading the detailed review below-- I can summarize it in one word-- HOT.

I had done my research before applying for membership and attending a Behind Closed Doors party. As a new comer to the New York sex scene, I was nervous about my first big party in the city. I had taken advantage of getting to chat with Rocco and Sex Kitten beforehand about the experience of being a newcomer, and what to expect, but no words could adequately describe the experience I was going to encounter later that night.  You have to experience it for yourself!

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Our annual Halloween event was extremely memorable.  Held the weekend before Sandy was set to hit the east coast, record numbers of members attended--and took the opportunity to party before the big storm.  Halloween is always one of my favorite events, because unlike other venues we encourage that the ladies wear less.  The skimpier the outfit, the more likely a lady is to win our costume contest.

The costumes were terrific, too.  We had some great matching couples costumes, including airline pilot and stewardess and Air Force pilots.  A wonderful member who had not attended in almost two years, Caroline, brought a new stud who was dressed as a gladiator.  We proceeded to the contest, with a panel of three sexy female judges.  One was a sexy single lady who caught my eye, another was a petite blonde who was attending BCD for the first time with her cutie boyfriend, and the ring leader was our topless bartender, Ruth.  Participants strutted their stuff down the runway to display themselves to the judges.  The judges decided on the final three, and we had the other members decide on the winner by applause.  The winner was the Raven, with a costume she made herself revealing her sexy curves with its sheer.  The Raven has attended BCD parties since the spring, and I continue to admire her at every party.  She's soooo sexy!!


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I was excited about seeing the "Super"-moon, the closest and largest moon of the year.  And what better way to view the supermoon than from atop of one of the most lavish penthouses in Manhattan with jaw-dropping views of the skyline and night sky?  I knew this year's Arabian Nights event would be a blast.

But when the Behind Closed Doors party kicked up, no one at the party could have cared less about the big moon.  I have to admit that I didn't even bother looking out the window to look at the moon, as I was too busy looking for something else--big, hard dicks to fuck.  And boy did I find them.

The party started off with a performance by gorgeous belly dancer.  She made a grand entrance carrying a tray full of candles on her head.  Her sequin bikini top with a sexy skirt left little to the imagination.  And the way she moved her hips, you could tell she must be a great fuck.  She looked around at the beautiful people who were enamored by her movement and decided to engage them, giving our members some up close and personal lap-dancing.  The dancing started the mood off right; almost as soon as our lovely belly dancer finished her act, guests started going at it.  She stayed around for a little bit to watch some of the action but then had to run off to another gig.  Then she revealed to Rocco that she wished she could stay and partake, and would be telling her boyfriend about how badly she wants to attend an even as a guest.  

Most performers and artists come to Behind Closed Doors parties and do not want to leave.  After all, they're only human.  It's almost impossible to resist Manhattan's most sexy event, Behind Closed Doors.  And for that reason, many of our performers have been known to stay and join in, which is totally hot!

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Awhile back, a daytime soap opera star contacted me and asked:

Sex Kitten, I'm a celebrity and I'm really interested in becoming a member to attend a BCD event.  But since I'm a celebrity, I'm afraid I'm going to be recognized by someone at a party.  The last thing is I want is that my sexual adventures and my attendance at BCD.  Are there any other celebrity members of BCD?  Do you have any advice on how to deal with my privacy concerns? Thanks!

This star is strikingly beautiful and really sweet, so I decided to call her to give her some advice.  But most of what I told her is applicable to anyone who wants to protect their identity.  Whether you're a professional in a conservative industry or just concerned about meeting someone you know, here is some advice.

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BCD's "Back to School" party was held at a magnificent penthouse venue in Manhattan.  Believe it or not, BCD had never before produced an event with this theme!  Despite being a part of the School of Sex, and offering Swing School at every BCD event for beginners, the "school" theme was never apart of a BCD party itself.  But After seeing the sexy school-girl outfits that the gorgeous ladies changed into, I have a feeling that this won't be the last Back to School party we see at BCD.

It all started with Swing School.  Lots of eager beginners came out to learn more about the Lifestyle.  Rocco and I have been trying to mix things up because so many more experienced BCD members come out, like the very buff Brian and his gorgeous asian wife, Angelina.  So, we focused more on how to pick up other couples this time.  But Swing School was came to an abrupt halt when one sexy female member screamed, "Wait! Is that you?!"  

The naughty plaid-skirted girl had called out someone she recognized.  Who was it?  HER BOSS!  Yes, this was a BCD first.  You'd think that in a city as big as Manhattan, at party like BCD--which attracts members from all over the world--the odds of meeting someone you know at a party would too slim to worry about.  We've had members in the past run into people they knew, but never their boss!  That's certainly some good job security!  After all, you can't really discuss seeing someone at a party like BCD without disclosing that you too were at that party.  But the exchange inspired me to write another article on exactly this subject, and how to handle it!

The sexy school-girl and her boss laughed over a few drinks while the Swing School finished up.  It didn't take long for the action to start.  In fact, I think it was a new record.  The culprit was actually one of our favorite guests from several years ago, Anna.  Anna, who has beautiful curly hair, an adorable smile, and a bangin' body, had been introduced to our parties as our employee.  At a loft venue we used several years ago, we had asked Anna to act as our door girl at the lobby, checking people off the guest list and sending them to the penthouse loft upstairs.  Anna didn't believe us when we told her that we only invited young, hot guests to our events.  But as she checked people off the list, she checked them out too -- from head to toe.  By the time the door closed and she was free to go home, she came back upstairs asking if she could stay.  Since she was so freaking sexy, I of course told her that she was more than welcome to stay.  Suffice to say, she had a ball and attended a bunch more parties after that one.  Ultimately, Anna started dating again but never found the right guy to bring to an event.

It took Anna a few years to find the right guy, but she finally did.

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For the past four years, BCD has redefined the swing scene and introduced the selective swinging movement. No longer were young, hot couples and single women forced to endure disappointing events or skeevy clubs filled with geriatrics. BCD has remained a beacon of hope for a scene which was tired and, quite frankly, extremely nasty.

To celebrate four years, BCD pulled out all the stops. The festivities took place at a penthouse that was selected as one of Manhattan's hottest. With a guest list filled with dozens of gorgeous guests, I knew we were in for one incredible night. August 20 was a perfect evening. Guests were able to enjoy the plentiful outdoor space available on each balcony. As guests arrived, they rushed outdoors to see the jaw-dropping views of Manhattan's most famous skyscraper. We had a feeling that there would be some fun taking place outside, but we had no idea how hot it would actually get... It was barely 11pm and clothes were beginning to come off. Guests couldn't help getting frisky, as the vibe was super-sexy and one glance around the space revealed dozens of hotties.

So, the fun began. Jack and Noreen, two of our regulars who have become BCD "ambassadors", shocked guests as Jack clipped a collar and leash on Noreen. Truth be told, I had given it to them as a gift, and they had used it once before -- but this time, Jack would pass the buck to several other guests. It began with a wild blow job, Noreen's specialty. Front and center, all eyes were on them. Suddenly, more people approached and an all out orgy began around them. Jack has a special way about him; while he's definitely dominant in bed, he's also a complete gentleman. He gauges his playmates and is careful before pushing the envelope. But women are always putty in his hands, because he knows exactly what he is doing.

I made my way into one of the other play areas, when I happened upon a shocking scene. As you probably realize, it takes a lot to shock me -- but I saw an awesome display. In the massive bathroom I saw two couples and a gorgeous single female. Two of the girls were eating out the other, while the men took turns fucking them. Yes, it was Greg and Lynn introducing some of our newer members to BCD etiquette, sharing is caring.

The single girl in the scene was a first timer, and in fact, a college girl!  Young and ready, she jumped right into the fun. I was definitely impressed. And then, Nigel came. It had been quite some time since I had seen him, as he's been busy with work and relocated away from NYC. But we always have undeniable chemistry, so whenever I do get to see him -- it's a wickedly good time. Since Rocco is always so busy helping me manage the parties, I took the liberty of inviting Nigel as my date. I quickly showed Nigel around. He was impressed at how BCD had grown and how classy it had truly become. I didn't care about the compliments, I wanted to get down to business. I grabbed him and took him to the play area.

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Behind Closed Doors has brought high-end swinging to the next generation.  But not only does BCD provide an upscale party, it also screens guests to ensure that everyone is young and attractive.  This is only made possible through the philanthropic efforts of our founding members, who have pumped tens of thousands of dollars into BCD every year to keep ticket prices reasonable while pulling out all the stops to make sure the parties are simply unparalleled.

No, BCD is not an erotic circus or a teasing dance party.  It's a real sex party.  It starts off as a social affair and quickly develops into more.  But guests are not expected to disrobe and jump in, you can take it at your own pace.  Some begin by watching; others find a secluded corner and play with the partner they came with; still others find a space on one of the beds next to other couples and ladies.  We encourage that newbies come to Swing School (always held during the first hour of BCD), and take it as slow as they'd like.  Sometimes, it takes a few parties before even getting undressed or dipping one's toes into soft-swap.  And for those who are ready to take the plunge into "full-swap", we're ready for you.

One common thread does exist in all our members' experiences -- after stepping foot into our super high end venues and they think to themselves, "Wow, I feel sexy just being here -- I'm already turned on."  Then they look around, "Damn, they're hot."  And they're not just talking about the women.  Since guests are screened, we don't allow in old men with trophy wives.  Sadly enough, we've been offered big money by some of the most repulsive men in the city to attend.  But why would we ever dilute our brand or our parties?

Behind Closed Doors is run for fun.  Despite the need to charge admission and membership fees to ensure that our guests are serious about attending (and to offset the costs of each party), this club is not run as a business.  There is no corporate greed involved.  And that's what makes us unique.  Our founding members are fortunate enough to have successful careers and we use BCD as we hope our guests do, to unwind and have a blast outside of the vanilla world.

BCD is a revolution, and it has become the envy of the swing world.  Guests come from around the world to attend.  We, the staff of BCD, are extremely thankful for the opportunity to put on these incredible events for our fantastic membership.

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I have been receiving emails like the one below for so long that it's a travesty I haven't put up my answer on the blog sooner rather than wasting my time answering each individually.

Dear Sex Kitten,

We can't make the party this weekend, but my husband and I were wondering if you had any recommendations on a good swinger club or party to attend next weekend.


Missed the Boat



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It was almost a hundred degrees outside, but the real heat was at Behind Closed Doors' Summer Heat event.  Located at our new posh penthouse location in Manhattan, guests admired the stunning views from around the gorgeous space as well as each of the balconies. One couple commented, "This is unbelievable.  How do you find such amazing locations while charging so little?"  I believe that location is key in throwing an unbelievable party.  Attending BCD should be everything that attending any other "swinger" club or party is not: sophisticated, classy, and extremely sexy.

And, because making money has never been a motivating factor at BCD, we have the ability to screen our guest list and pull out all the stops for invited guests.  It's a unique concept, and it only works because Rocco and I have decided to be swing philanthropists in order to welcome hot, young couples and single ladies to a comfortable, laid-back environment. 

Swing School welcomed eager newbies who wished to learn a bit about the lifestyle.  We ended the session with a champagne toast and got started on the night.

Couples poured in -- and so did the single females.  With a ratio of 1 single female for every 4 couples, there was plenty of opportunity to make that "MFF" threesome cum true.

Venus, who had found out about BCD from my feature article on Above the Law, came out on her own.  Venus had been a seasoned swinger in her previous relationship, but had decided to try it out by herself.  I knew she would like our masseuse, Colossus, since she had mentioned that she had a particular interest in tall, muscular blonde men.  They hit it off right away.

As the bikini competition started, I heard Venus' screams as Colossus started to pound her pussy.  Normally, I would have gone over, but I was taken aback by the gorgeous women parading around in bikinis.  It may have been hot outside, but it was sizzlin' inside!  We actually had two winners, one of whom was a gorgeous petite asian girl who had attended her first party mere months ago.

When the contest ended, the action started. 

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Although the swinger scene in Montreal has changed for the worse since we first started swinging a few years back, Rocco and I always go back and visit in hopes of perhaps finding what once existed.  Like remembering an old romance, we have hopes of rekindling the swinger fun that once was.  What better way to go on a swinger adventure than with one of our sexiest and most intelligent swinger couple-friends, Hera and Apollo. 

Although this couple has recently been introduced into the lifestyle, the amazing sex they have with others is just an enhancement of their already fantastic relationship.  I should know after spending nearly every minute of our extended weekend with them.  Hera is a gorgeous knock-out with a serious appetite for cock.  Apollo is not only sexy but a total gentleman who always brings water (or whatever drink you ask for) to a lady after fucking her exactly how she wants it.  Apollo has the stamina to keep going and going.  You can call Hera and Apollo the "model swinger couple" and we are lucky to have met them.

During out trip to Montreal with Hera and Apollo, we were excited to attend the grand opening of the newest swingers club in the city--Club Wicked.  After hearing great things about "Shlomo" and his Wicked Club in Toronto, Canada (which we have yet to visit), I couldn't wait to see what Shlomo had in store for Montreal.  If you did not know, a lawyer in Montreal who also happened to be a swinger was responsible for legalizing swing clubs in Canada.  He actually took the case all the way to Canada's Supreme Court!   What is a dirty, dingy, underground business in NYC is very different in cities like Montreal or Toronto.  Not only was Wicked on one of the main streets in the city, adjacent to a mall, but there were tons of signage advertising the location right outside.  As the club was on the second floor, we had to look around to find the entrance.  We were greeted at the door and walked to the reception area to pay the entrance and membership fees.

When we walked into the club, it was already pretty packed.  To promote their opening night, we were told that the owners went to regular, Vanilla clubs and invited couples to come party at their club (likely omitting the X-rated description of what happens in the back rooms).  Keep in mind that Quebecois are generally quite liberal and open-minded, especially compared to the generally prude Americans.  But it is still never a good idea to mix Vanillas with swingers, especially at an on-premise party.  But, Shlmo, just like every other club and party in the world besides Behind Closed Doors and SiN, does NOT reject couples.  The same way a restaurant hopes to book all their tables for an evening and pack the house, swinger clubs hope to pack the house with anyone and everyone--as long as they pay their dues.

The crowd was a generally older and a more "traditional" swinger crowd: the best having had face-lifts, breast-lifts, tummy-tucks and the worst being old and tired looking.  But, much to our surprise, there were actually a few couples in our age group.  We started out on the dance floor.  The dance and lounge area was quite large with high end finishes.  The club had a beautiful ambiance with lots of room to dance and mingle.  If I was a Vanilla, I would have been perfectly satisfied with the topless dancers, the bar areas, the caged platforms and stage.  But, since I'm not a Vanilla, it takes a little more to impress me...

We walked around to the back area of the "off-premise" dance part of the club to find that some of the club was still under construction.  In fact, the theme of the evening should have been "the unfinished swinger club," as it truly was.

As nice as the place was, the half-assed effort and c'est la vie attitude of the staff really put a sour feeling in my mouth.  But, let's get to the "meat" of the story--the play areas.

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I've always said that swingers need a secret code--some sort of indication that you're in the lifestyle and ready to have some fun. I've seen necklaces that say "SWINGER" but that's a bit too crass for my taste--at least to wear out in public (personally, I have two naughty necklaces -- "FUCK ME" and "SLUT").

By chance, Mariella Frostrup, a television and radio personality in Britain, placed pampas grass on her porch and wondered why she was getting the attention of swingers in the neighborhood. It turns out that in the UK, placing pampas grass on your porch is a signal to swingers that you're ready to host an orgy. So, it's settled--not only do the Brits sound smart, they are smart! Time to redecorate my porch...

For more details, check out the full story at http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/celebritynews/8923263/Mariella-Frostrup-accidentally-invites-swingers-with-pampas-grass.html

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January's Wall of Shame is a single woman who broke the cardinal rule of swinging--don't piss off one partner in hopes to hook up with the other.  This lady, let's call her "Jezzebel," had hooked up with me and Rocco in a three-some.  However, during the three-some, I was rather bored by her cock-hogging ways and selfishness.  Don't get me wrong, I had a great time with Rocco as I always do, but this lady just kept trying to take the cock as if she was the only woman in the room.  A cock-hog in a MFF threesome is a recipe for diaster.  It's actually the reason that many women dread having MFF threesomes -- jealousy comes into the picture and can destroy what a guy thinks is a ultra-hot scenario.  But, I was a good sport about it.  As she took the cock, I ate her out and touched myself.  I thought Rocco and I made the best out of the situation and regardless of the fact that Jezzebel had a bad attitude, I still managed to have a good time as did Rocco.

A few days passed and Jezzebel started sending Rocco text messages about how hot the three-some was.  I'm sure Rocco was flattered and it would've been great if she left it at that.  However, this lady wanted to bring her drama along for the ride.  She would send me an email saying opposite of what she would tell Rocco.  Often, she tried to make up scenerios and situations hoping that a rift would be created between me and Rocco so she could have him all to herself.  Silly girl.  Didn't she know Rocco and I are swingers, which means we communicate and are not dishonest with each other?  At first, I laughed at her tactics, but eventually when she wouldn't stop, she started to get a bit on my nerves.  She brought her drama into my life and thought she had a chance to break apart our relationship. 

She eventually sent me an email to apologize for any problems she may have caused.  Maybe she was ready to leave the drama at the door and have some true, no strings attached sex.  After all, I wasn't looking for a troubled girlfriend and neither was Rocco.  I thought it would be appropriate for me to not be so hard on her and give her a second chance.  So, we invited her once again to have some fun with us.  Luckily, it wasn't the three of us alone again because if so, I would have needed a plastic cock because I wouldn't be touching a real one all night.  I was distracted playing with other friends as she and Rocco played together.  So, everyone was happy.  Frankly, if she wasn't so hot, I would've told Rocco to play with someone else -- but I knew he could handle her while preventing her from getting too close (e.g. getting to him on a personal level, on top of the sex).

Afterwards, I received countless emails and messages from Jezzebel once again.  She would send me the stupidest text messages during work and I really didn't appreciate it.  So, I did the decent thing and just ignored her.  However, she continued to lie and betray me and Rocco.  After I kept ignoring her, she would make up lies and message Rocco giving him details about "the conversation Sex Kitten and I had."  I'm not sure if she realized that she was having a one-way conversation or cared.  However, shame on Jezzebel for attempting to create a rift between two swingers.  It's a good thing Rocco and I have been doing this for a while because I can see if Jezzebel acted this way around a newbie couple, it could have turned ugly.  She could use a dose of Swing School and an Intro. to Swinging.

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The XXXtreme party started kicked off Oscar weekend and I was glad to end my week with a BANG.  It is so difficult to find single males to invite to XXXtreme, as most of the men who apply are rejected.  I am always getting e-mails from men asking "Why can't I come, Sex Kitten?"  If you have to ask, this event is not for you.  But, have no fear--there are about a dozen so called fake "swingers" event in the city who will gladly accept you into their disgusting, dingy parties.  Sorry, but if XXXtreme is going to be the world's only truly selective swinger party open to select single men who are not only hot and hung but gentlemen, we can't accept every Tom, Dick and Hairy (yes, Hairy as in the unkempt losers who can't bother grooming down there).  As they say, with great power comes great responsibility and I have to look out for the hot, horny women of NYC who attend my exclusive events!

With that being said and not to my surprise, we again had more women attending the intimate affair than men because, as I have described, XXXtreme goes for quality over quantity.  I guess us ladies had to deal with the dick shortage the best we could--by sharing.  As soon as the ladies changed into lingerie, it was time to get it on.  Rocco and I met Sandra and Mitch only a few months back at a BCD party.  Even though these two were newly introduced to the lifestyle, they were not shy and totally confident about themselves and their relationship.  They must have a very special relationship to attend the XXXtreme party which is ONLY for full-swap couples (we don't want gawkers, just people who are open to playing -- for those who aren't ready, there is always BCD).  I just love to meet such open, honest and sexy people.

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imageThroughout the year, I am invited to attend some of the hottest cocktail reception and red-carpet affairs in the city.  Most of these posh events, however, are pretty boring.  Women come into these affairs wearing cleavage-bearing dresses that scream "I am ready to fuck!" but nothing really goes down--unless the occasional rumors about two people hooking up for a quickie in the bathroom are true.  But if I'm dressed to the nines, I'd rather fuck AT the party rather than in a sketchy bathroom.  Besides, Rocco and I have already been there, done that.  So, I thought to myself, why not host a Behind Closed Doors party at one of the city's most posh penthouses, on top of the world with views of the Manhattan skyline from the balconies?  Why not plan this upscale gala for Valentine's Day and appropriately host it during Fashion Week?  It took a lot of planning, but we made my vision come true!

Now, if you have never been to a BCD party but have been so un-lucky to attend other so-called  "swinger" affairs in and around the city, you may think that posh and swinger party does not go together.  But, my friends, you would be wrong because BCD made it happen once again.

Our first set of guests arrived before the party even began to join us for Swing School.  Again, you may ask yourself, who the hell shows up to a "swing" party early?  Again, I say, BCD is no ordinary swing party!

As we walked around and met up with all our old and new friends, I could not help but stop and stare at all the gorgeous people.  I often wonder, if I wasn't the one on the organizing side of the party but was a guest -- what would I think when I walked in to these events?  If I hadn't pre-approved each and everyone of the hot guests and had shown up as one of the lucky, invited guests to the party, what would I do?  I think I would just be astonished to see so many beautiful and genuine people--there were women that looked like the girl next door (that you would never expect to be so naughty) and others who looked like models (some of whom WERE models)--but all with great attitudes; there wasn't a bit of pretentious from anyone.

Even the most shy of guests came out of their shells to participate in the "lock and key" game.  Before long, women changed into their hottest lingerie and the fun began.
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The second round of our anniversary Halloween bash was on Saturday, Oct 30.  Since Halloween was on a Sunday, we were actually partying on mischief night -- and boy, did we get into some naughty mischief.  I was a super revealing Jane of the Jungle outfit, while Rocco wore a matching Tarzan outfit.  My boobs kept popping out, but that is part of the fun of being able to wear lingerie-style outfits to a Halloween party.  Unfortunately, I can never revert to a vanilla Halloween party again... Halloween is just too good of an excuse to wear next to nothing.  And at Behind Closed Doors, nearly everyone took advantage.  We had some supremely sexy female guests (and duos) dressed up.
Thanks to our close friends and BCD regulars, Greg and Lynn, we were pleased to offer a vacation in Jamaica as the 1st place prize for the best costume.  We held the best costume contest at midnight around the large pool area.  Adult star Karen Kougar, who was dressed as -- of course -- a cougar, assisted Rocco in judging.  We saw some crazy sexy outfits including sexy vampires, witches, belly dancers, nurses, and even a naughty "Irish" couple, who were a little early for St. Patty's day.  Unfortunately Greg and Lynn were not able to compete in the contest, but they had the coolest Trinity and Morpheus custom-made Matrix outfits. I had my money on two wickedly hot single females who came with each other, but the "Irish" couple wound up winning the audience over and took home the prize.

And then, the fun began.  The nice thing about our new venue is that there are so many areas to explore.  Many people were able to chill by the massive pool or take a dip, while others went to the private rooms or the large group room.  I chose the latter.
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After the 2009 shut down of Casbar, a swingers club in Brooklyn,  new concerns over the legality of sex/swinger clubs and parties in New York have risen.

There is no law that makes a swinger club illegal in itself. Casbar was shut down as a result of an alleged violation of New York State Sanitary Code Section 24-2.2 (10 NY CRR 24-2.2). Specifically, it was found that "Casbar has allowed acts which constitute a danger and detriment to public health to take place at the Casbar including sexual activities consisting of fellatio, vaginal intercourse and anal intercourse as prohibited by the New York State Sanitary Code." City of New York v. Casbar, 7819/09. Also note that no guests or patrons of Casbar were arrested or detained -- this was simply the city shutting the club down for being a "public nuisance."

The above cited section of the State Sanitary Code prohibits any penetrative sexual activity – oral, anal, vaginal – in commercial establishments. It's extremely broad, yet quite vague. In New York City, the Department of Health and Mental Hygiene (DOHMH) is charged with enforcement of the Sanitary Code. DOHMH states that it initiates enforcement actions when it receives complaints about an establishment. DOHMH sends inspectors to venues and if they observe sexual activity, DOHMH notifies the venue that it is in violation of the law. If DOHMH determines that the prohibited activity has not ceased, it may issue subsequent citations and initiate legal proceedings resulting in closing the venue.

So how was Casbar shut down?

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To celebrate the School of Sex's third anniversary, Rocco and I partied it up on Friday AND Saturday.  School of Sex actually started off with two nights of Halloween debauchery, so it was clearly time to re-institute an entire weekend of festive, freaky fun.  On Friday, we kicked off the weekend with XXXtreme Events.  As you know, XXXtreme Events are not for the beginner swingers.  These parties are open to VERY SELECT single males, single women and couples.  What is the criteria for the single males?  Let's just say determining who to invite is a rigorous process.  Not only do the men have to be very handsome, well-groomed, decently endowed, and young, but they must be GENTLEMEN, first and foremost.  For those women who have been fortunate enough to date men in NYC, you can certainly understand how daunting this task is.  Nevertheless, XXXtreme Events gathered this top echelon of gentlemen and did not disappoint!
We were celebrating Angelina and Rocco's birthday at the XXXtreme party.  I was excited to see our beautiful friends Lady and Mr. E.  Lady E is an exotic, gorgeous woman.  The two of them are an amazing swinger couple -two of the nicest, most genuine people you will ever meet.  We have been fortunate enough to party with these two on many occasions.  Not only did Lady and Mr. E join us for Friday night's event, they also parties with us all weekend long and joined us on Saturday night.  We can't get enough of these two.  You may think these two were the only crazy enough party animals besides us to party all weekend-but you would be wrong.  Also joining us for the crazy weekend XXXtravaganza was Titan and Mrs. Titan.  As you may recall, Titan was the winner of the Biggest Dick 2009 contest. 
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Behind Closed Doors did it again!  Rocco and I attended the "Return to Summer" event in early October.  This event promised to be BCD's largest event in all three years of the exclusive club's existence.  Indeed it was.  In fact, this was the largest gathering of gorgeous swingers I had ever seen in the NYC area.

There were so many hot, young couples and single ladies, I was on system-overload.  The sheer number of couples reviled those at the most popular swingers club in Paris and in the southern part of the U.S., but the venue was one of a kind.

As soon as we walked in, I knew this party would be unlike any that I had ever attended.  There was so much going on all night, I wish there were five clones of myself that I could have sent around the party to keep track of what was going on.  The action started out by the pool and jacuzzi.  Some couples changed into their bathing suits and hot bikinis; others changed into their birthday suits.  The venue was in pristine condition and by far the classiest I have ever seen for any swinger party anywhere in the world.  I walked around and met some old friends and new ones.  A notable adult star and her husband walked in and I saw their jaws drop.  When you get a thumbs up from a porn star, you know that's a very good thing.

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The Daily News recently reportebcdnycd that NYC swingers sex parties are feeling the pinch of the harsh economy, but Behind Closed Doors was noted as the lone exception.

What the story did not mention was why Behind Closed Doors has emerged as the most successful erotic event that Manhattan has seen in years.  "It has to do with our high standards and selectivity," Jasmine, founder of BCD, the sex club that started the "selective swinging movement" in the city.  Guests range from 21-45 and the average age is 30, which is less than half the age of the average attendee at nearly any other swinger club in the world.

"BCD is the only sex club that actually screens our guests by means of a sophisticated questionnaire and picture submission.   We go for quality, and not quantity, unlike every other swinger club out there, where the goal is simply to fill the club."  Jasmine notes that guests do not have to reveal their faces or true identities, but pictures of each guests' body must be submitted.  "If a person is approved but doesn't match their picture at the door, they will not be admitted," Jasmine added.

Through a careful process of selection, Jasmine is able to successfully congregate an amazingly sexy group of young, attractive, open-minded and intelligent people with a common interest -- to explore and indulge their erotic pleasures in a shared space. Those interested in applying to the exclusive parties are directed to visit the club’s website at http://bcd-nyc.com. “All my guests must not only be attractive but must have an open-mind and a positive attitude,” says Jasmine.

The result? BCD members are a far cry from attendees at any other swinger party in the world -- they're exceptionally beautiful. Guests range from graduate students and runway models to doctors and lawyers. “I started the ‘selective swinging’ movement to ensure that my guests have a more stimulating time and are more likely to find potential playmates to whom they are very attracted,” Jasmine commented.   The monthly BCD events are extremely discreet -- when asked, Jasmine declined to identify celebrity guests rumored to have attended in the past.

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August's Wall of Shamer is a single male, Mike, who attended an XXXtreme Event and was extremely rude to the owner of the venue, resulting in XXXtreme losing a nice location at which we had been hosting our parties regularly.  As you probably now, BCD and XXXtreme are roaming parties meaning that we throw events at new locations all the time.  We had been developing a relationship with a particular venue owner in order to maintain our ability to throw parties at his location (as it is always a struggle to find new and interesting places without issues).  The owner, who will likely be next month's Wall of Shamer, was demanding of us -- he wanted to personally approve of almost everything we were doing.  As long as he didn't participate but simply oversaw the operation, Rocco and I were OK with it.
image The owner, a crotchety old man I'll call Snake, was at the bar and flirting with our lovely topless bartender, Rachel.  Everyone else was scattered around the venue, fucking.  Apparently, Snake was telling her a joke and was just about to get to the punch line.  Matt stumbles over and interrupts at that very moment -- "Beer, I need a beer right away!" he yelled, cutting off Snake.  Rachel grabbed the beer just as Snake starting screaming at Mike.  "What the fuck!?  You have no respect!  I was just about to reach the punch line of my joke and you interrupt me!  How DARE YOU!" Snake exclaimed.  Of course, it was out of line for Snake to get that worked up over something so stupid.  But the old man might have been looking for an excuse to be pissed off and to take it out on Rocco and myself.  We could tell he wasn't as excited about the parties, as he probably realized that, as a man in his 60s, he was way too old  (and ugly) to stand a chance of getting in on action with our hot, young crowd.  He actually suggested that we have a "Seasoned Swinger" party for the over-50 crowd.  But, that story is for another day.
Mike could have apologized right there and ended it.  Instead, he poured fuel on the fire.  "What did I do?" he asked.  He went back and forth with the old man.  Then, Mike made things even worse for himself.  Rocco had heard the commotion, separated Snake and Matt, and talked to each of them.  He told Mike he should probably just leave and we'd talk it over.  Mike couldn't leave it at that.  Instead, he interrupted me -- as I was riding a stiff cock, to tell me that he was being asked to leave.  I started to get pissed.  Mike has a thick head, but the fool doesn't know when to shut up.  Now he was making a scene.  I told him just to leave, and that we'd discuss it later.  After all, he had ALREADY had the privilege of fucking me, Mandy, and several other of the hottest girls at the party.  I had even made an exception for his unshaven, unkempt junk -- and allowed him to fuck me because I thought he was a decent guy.  By interrupting me, he had really put the final nail in the coffin.
On his way out, he continued to bicker with the old man and raised his voice to the concern of many guests.  It was just stupid.  But Mike didn't email or contact me after to apologize.  After 3 months I finally heard from him:
It's been a few months since we spoke and wanted to say hi. I know things seemed weird after the last party, for reasons I still cannot fully understand, but it was an amazing time until the incident. I hope all is well and that we may be able to get together at a future party if things are not problematic. All the best and enjoy the party this weekend.  ~Mike
"Weird"?  No apology.  No concern about what might have happened after the incident (namely, the old man pushing us out of the venue because he didn't want to deal with problems like Mike).  So, I didn't respond.
What a fucking idiot.  Of course, Mike came crawling back because there is no substitute for XXXtreme -- every other party open to single males is (1) crowded with NASTY single men who will compete for any available ass (e.g. women of the night/old maids) thereby making it highly unlikely for even a good looking guy to get any play (due to the typical 20 to 1 guy to girl ratio) , and (2) filled with women of the night, women being paid to be there, and NO "real" women.
All I ask is that a man be a gentlemen.  If you have a disagreement with someone, or made a mistake by saying something disrespectful just say, "Sorry!"  Why is that so hard??
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