BCD Frequency Asked Questions (FAQ)

Q: What is the "selective swinging" movement? 

A: BCD is not just a swing party, but an upscale erotic soiree exclusively for hot, young couples and single ladies.  BCD started the selective swinging movement in 2008 with the idea that many of those of the most beautiful people in the Lifestyle have discerning taste.  Whether they want to swap partners, or just watch, attractive people prefer to be surrounded by other attractive guests.  Attractiveness includes physical attributes as well as class.  BCD promotes a laid back environment where harassment is never tolerated, and there are no expectations to do anything.

Q: What should I expect at a BCD party? 

A: Many beginners are intimidated to attend their first event.  We highly suggest that you begin your journey by reading Sex Kitten's blog entries, including the Advice and Party Recap sections.  You should also come to the event early to attend our renowned Swing School (which typically begins at 9:30PM).

Things may begin to get naughty as early as 11PM.  Before that time, our gorgeous members interact much as you would at any cocktail party. If you want to avoid walking into to a scene that much resembles Eyes Wide Shut, you should come as early as possible and try to get to know some of the other members.

Even if you walk into an all-out orgy at BCD, there is no expectation that you must join in.  

Q: How long have you been throwing events? 

A: We have been organizing the premiere events in the NY metro area for approximately five years.

Q: What is the average age of attendees?

A:  BCD attracts a significantly younger crowd as compared with any other erotic club or event anywhere in the world. The age range of our parties is 20s to 40s; the average age is approximately 32.  For those older than 45, membership is generally not granted unless you are extremely attractive, in-shape, and look significantly younger.

Q: How discreet are your parties?

A: Discretion is of the utmost importance to us.  We guarantee that your name, email, etc. will NEVER be revealed to anyone, sold, or otherwise compromised.  In the interest of discretion, you can feel free to use an alias at our events.

Q: Will I be able to find a single lady at your parties?

A: Yes, as our events are organized by a woman, we create an atmosphere that is extremely accessible to single women.  We always have single ladies at the events.

Q: What is Swing School?

A: Swing School is an introduction to swinging for beginners presented by SchoolOfSex.  During the first hour of our parties, we hold a session of Swing School.  We discuss various topics including: an introduction into the lifestyle, what to expect at an erotic event, how to interact, commonly used terms, and lots of advice.  Swing School is a fantastic opportunity to meet other beginners -- typically, the couples attending will form a bond and even wind up playing.

Q: How often do you throw parties?

A: Approximately once a month.

Q: Are homosexual or bisexual men welcome to the events?

A: Unfortunately Behind Closed Doors events do not cater to homosexual or bisexual men.  We are developing an even more open-minded event called "Both Ways" for precisely this purpose.

Q: Do you allow single males? 

A: No, as a policy we do not permit single males at Behind Closed Doors events. 

Q: Do you have a screening/vetting process?

A: Yes, to attend a BCD event you must be approved.  We ask for pictures and statistics to ensure that our guests are height/weight proportionate, attractive, open-minded, and have great personalities.  We may also voice verify with the ladies attending, to make sure that they are coming of their own free will and desire.

Q: Do you require everyone to change into towels, or get naked?

A: No!  We believe that fun should happen organically -- and we never force our guests to do ANYTHING they don't want to, including getting naked.

Q: What is the typical attire at your parties?

A: Dress to impress. Our recommendation is to dress up as if you are going to a dance club. Most females wear a sexy top and a skirt and remove clothing or change as the night progresses. If a female is comfortable enough, she is free to wear lingerie.  It is not uncommon for people to completely undress.

Q: If I do not find compatible partners, can I get a refund?

A: Absolutely not. You are paying for admission to a party -- we are not a hookup service. We have a phenomenal record of holding events that attract the best crowd of any on-premise swing club or party in the country. However, we can never guarantee that anyone will find what they are looking for. At the very least, you will have a fun night and see a lot of “live porn.”  Our best advice is to have an open mind and always be friendly and outgoing.